The art of inflicting regret
22 June 2010
Last week, I had somebody say something to me that was clearly meant to make me regret giving up our relationship. There really wasn’t any question about it. It’s not like I sat around thinking, “It seems like she’s maybe trying to make me feel regretful…” No. I knew.
It was like when you know you’re going to see your ex again – the one who practically ripped out your heart when they broke up with you – and you spend time making yourself look good. But everybody knows you can’t make yourself look too good, or it’ll be obvious that you invested a lot of time, and that’ll give you look an air of desperation. You need to look carelessly good to have the effect you want.
She definitely came across as desperate. Which left me feeling like our ties being cut had really been the best thing.
Ugh, been there on the friend thing.
There’s a line in the song Caledonia…“I lost the friends that I needed losing, found others on the way.” That’s so true. Sometimes a lost friendship is the best for both parties.
Posted by Erica Vetsch on 22 June 2010